Issue No. 1 | January 27, 2026 | Dr. Jacqueline Ashley
How The System Makes You Feel Like A Fraud
The "imposter syndrome" narrative is wrong. Here's the real story.
The Pattern
You overprepare. You have the receipts. The pitch lands, but the promotion goes to...someone else.
Another leader repeats your idea in a meeting and gets the credit.
A coworker tells you, “You’re not what I expected.” Ouch! Now you know what they assumed about you.
Each time, that voice says: You don’t belong here.
I know that voice. Most of us do. Here’s what I’ve learned: It’s not ours. It’s gatekeeping by design.
What The Feeling Is Telling You
“Feeling like a fraud” is too vague to work with. Let’s get underneath it.
It could be shame that (you think) you’re not enough, fear of being exposed, or grief that you keep being denied the belonging you’ve earned.
Name it. The precision matters.
How It Shows Up
When the fraud voice takes hold, it doesn’t stay internal.
You hold back in meetings, don’t ask for what you deserve, shrink when you could take up space.
People notice. They don’t see a fraud, though. They see hesitation. Opportunities pass that might not have if you trusted yourself more.
I’ve watched brilliant people dim their own light. I’m one of them and I bet, so are you.
The Real Deal
Feeling like a fraud isn’t a personal failing. It’s a feature of systems designed to have insiders and outsiders.
Maybe you’re marginalized by race, gender, or sexual orientation. Maybe you’re the introvert in an extrovert-dominated culture, or the compassionate leader in a toxic organization.
The message is always the same: You’re not the norm here.
When you’re “not the norm” in multiple ways, the marginalization compounds.
Here’s what we’re not going to do: call this “imposter syndrome” and put it on you to fix.
You are more than good enough. You’re navigating a system designed to protect traditional ideas of who gets to be “leadership material.” Some of us were never meant to fit that mold. That says everything about the mold and nothing about your worth.
The Assumption Worth Questioning
Many of us believe: If I prove myself enough times, I’ll belong.
How much is enough, though? Why aren’t we questioning whether that’s even true?
What if belonging isn’t something you earn through performance? What if you can show up with full presence while still being imperfect?
We’ve all heard “fake it ‘til you make it.” I prefer “face it ‘til you ace it.”
When the fraud voice gets triggered—and it will—pause. Ask yourself: Is this true, or is this the distortion talking?
That pause is where you practice seeing yourself clearly. Not inflated or diminished, just clear. That’s where real confidence lives.
Your Strengths In This Challenge
We all have strengths to address feeling like a fraud. CliftonStrengths (aka StrengthsFinder) names 34. Here are three examples:
If you lead with Command, you cut through confusion with emotional clarity. Use it to manage the fraud voice and advocate for yourself and others—even when the space punishes directness.
If you have Individualization, you already reject cookie-cutter standards. The fraud voice is a one-size-fits all judgment. When you don’t fit the mold, the mold is the problem. Cast a new one.
If Analytical is your strength, you examine evidence before drawing conclusions. The system may signal you don’t belong, but that doesn’t prove you’re not good enough. Sort out what’s systemic from what’s distortion.
The key: know when your strengths serve you and when the system tries to use them against you.
The Integration
Feel Deeply: Acknowledge what you’re feeling. The fraud voice is real. The pain is real. Respond with self-compassion.
Think Critically: Challenge the narrative that you’re not good enough. You are more than good enough.
Lead Powerfully: Use your strengths intentionally to claim your place. No permission required.
This Week's Momentum Question
Ready to practice “face it ‘til you ace it?” Sharing is part of the process.
Where will you take up space this week instead of shrinking?
If sharing feels too uncomfortable right now, notice what's holding you back. That’s data.
I’d love to see your thoughts on LinkedIn.
